Wow, I can’t believe a whole year has gone by. To be honest with you my life this past year has been a bit of a blur. It was a mix of adventures, new beginnings, and adjustments. First of all, last year I was in Peru not in Canada, enjoying the second part of my self-discovery/6-month sabbatical journey drinking fresh fruit juices and spending my day at the beach.
I guess you can say that got me started on a different foot. Then a series of life events happened that kind of threw me out of course even more. What can I say, sometimes life takes a small detour but that may mean it's a necessary one! After a year of starting a new relationship, moving to a new city, and letting go of old ties and making new ones, I am ready to get back to sharing my food and life adventures through The Sassy Tomato.
At around this time last year, I had just started speaking to Alessandro again, my now boyfriend, best friend, and most-likely the love of my life. I met Alessandro while living in Italy last year. He had walked into the Gelateria I was working at and after a brief chat had asked for my contact info. Him being a chef and my love for food and wine and fascination with the Italian culture seemed to make at least good dinner conversation.
I never imagined that our chanced meeting would change the course of both our lives. Though we had parted ways in October when he left for Miami and I had one more month left in Italy before going to Peru to spend the summer in Lima, the universe just pulled us back together.
...via Whatsapp. A modern twist on a romantic story, Thank God for technology and the Internet!
Our relationship really started through video chat and messages. We both didn’t really know what we were doing. We were both very confused about our career path nevertheless these feelings we felt for someone we only had spent a couple of days with.
Well as you can imagine it paid off because we are still together now, a year later, living in Toronto together.
My journey to Italy helped me discover myself in ways I never imagined. I became uncomfortable with myself to eventually become comfortable with myself and the path I was walking on. However, sharing that path with someone else brought on new challenges I was not prepared.
It was a new adventure, a different kind of adventure than my trip to Italy. I had a lot of moments of doubt and fear. Loving intensely can be scary and full of what if’s but eventually I learned; I learned to be in a relationship, the work it takes, and to live and love in the moment.
We can’t control the future, so there’s no point stressing about it. Just like I blindly embarked on my trip to Italy, I had to embark on this new journey with Alessandro. I decided to love without fear of what may be in the future and just live and love in the present.
I am very happy in my relationship now. As I “fixed” one part of my life, I can’t help but feel as I let other parts slip. The parts about myself before I had a boyfriend. I left The Sassy Tomato behind.
In a way, The Sassy Tomato was my boyfriend, my companion, my way to occupy my time. Even through my travels, The Sassy Tomato was there with me, though I had changed her voice from talking about solely food to talking about self-discovery and growth.
I didn't even noticed I had left her behind and before I knew it I was going through the motions of my new life, every day forgetting a little more about The Sassy Tomato.
There are no regrets though. Sometimes we must leave something untouched for a while to work on other things. This year though I want to come back to what I left on pause, my blog, my sharing of food and wine, making of bread and sharing adventures with those who choose to listen.
Now, mind you I never stopped eating good food, drinking good wine, discovering new places and being active. I just stopped sharing it as The Sassy Tomato. I was just being me for a while and enjoying the moments of life.
Over the last couple of weeks I've found myself missing something and I've realized that I miss being connected to the world. I miss sharing my voice and connecting with others who share the same passions as me. Though I will come back in 2020, it won’t be the same, I have changed and grown, but I will always share good food with you.
And you can say that I've learned a couple of new things having an Italian and a Chef as a boyfriend ;)
I hope you all had a fantastic year and I can’t wait to start 2020 fresh with all of you.
The Sassy Tomato